Episode 7: The Power Puff Sisters, Sibling Dynamics.

In this heartfelt and hilarious episode of Andi & Mich, the sisters dive deep into the wild, wonderful world of sibling relationships. With 8+ years between them, they explore what it means to be sisters across generations, whether sibling bonds are cosmic fate or happy accidents, and how sibling dynamics shift in adulthood. From epic childhood stories (like Mitch’s cookie heist in full costume) to a quiz that reveals their inner “sister archetypes,” this episode is packed with laughter, nostalgia, and emotional wisdom.

Expect conversations on chosen family, birth order chaos, deep cosmic connections, and what it means to evolve into teammates in midlife. Whether you’re besties with your siblings or still figuring them out, this episode is for you.

💥 Bonus: Don’t miss the hilarious “Which Sister Are You?” quiz and 10-question rapid-fire segment.

Keywords: sibling relationships podcast, sister dynamics, chosen family, sibling quiz, Latina podcast, sister stories, generational differences, emotional healing, funny childhood stories, women-led podcast

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The Andi and Mich Podcast: Two Sisters, Two Generations, Unique Perspectives, Lots of Laughs

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Hello everybody. Welcome back to Andy and Mitch, the podcast where two sisters talk life, love, and laugh at our own jokes. Quite often today's episode is extra special, we're calling it"The Power Puff Girls" episode because, well, that's the energy we bring. We're talking about all things sibling dynamics. Were we destined to be sisters or just a happy accident? Spoiler. I think the universe knew what it was doing. Get ready for childhood flashbacks, and some rapid fire questions that might just surprise you, let's dive in. Are siblings destined to be siblings? Or is it a happy accident because there's something very unique and special about sibling relationships that exists in the world, and these are sometimes some of your closest, most trustworthy allies or your biggest enemy. You and I have been siblings our entire lives. Yes, we surely have. And this is Andy, so I'm the oldest. Yes. And Mitch? Is the youngest. I'm the baby. And we are over eight years apart. Yeah. So there's a pretty big gap between us. So that I think creates a very interesting sibling dynamic that we'll get into a little bit. But I always find it interesting to know how people's sibling relationships are. I will say, having a sister as a sibling is a superpower. Sisters are by far the best sibling to have, and it's been proven. So research does show that if you have a sibling that's a sister. Regardless of your identification and you have a sibling that's a sister that it actually promotes and improves your mental health, your ability to have good relationships, your empathy, how much you learn how to trust people because you learn so much from each other in that dynamic. And because women are powerhouses, I think that makes perfect sense. Yeah, for sure. It's science, y'all. That's the science that says this science. Do you believe that siblings are born with a connection or do you think it's something that you have to work on and build up over time? I think it's both. Because often people will say like, oh, you have siblings, so you had built in friends. And if you have a bigger family, like we did, right. Yeah. We had a lot of cousins close in age to us at the different generations that we grew up in who also kind of became like pseudo siblings. Yeah, they were like our sisters and brothers from other mothers. I think when you're really young, you understand it, you get it. There's this really like bonded closeness. Mm-hmm I will say the one thing is like you love your sibling no matter what, even if they're the, worst sibling in the world, you still love them and so that's the one commonality, obviously biologically there's something that connects us, but I think spiritually there's something that connects us too. Yeah. What was that quote you read earlier? I smile because you're my sibling. I laugh because there's nothing you can do about it. Because you don't choose your siblings, right? We're just in the same chaos together no matter what. I do think there's something to also the fact that, sibling dynamics ebb and flow. Like sometimes, you know, let's be real, we haven't always gotten along perfectly. Right? And as we've grown up, that has shifted, but it's ebbed and flowed. There have been periods in our lives where we've been close and then maybe not as close and then back together but it does feel like that it is like that old friend. When I was in my adolescence. You were already becoming a young adult. So I think that kind of shifted maybe a bit. But otherwise, we've always gotten along for the most part. Yeah. There's this underlying comfort and love in majority of sibling dynamics. And I think what's unique about us is we're, two of three daughters. Our sister passed away when we were very young. Mm-hmm. And so there was this huge gap between us, so we didn't have that connecting middle child to bond us the entire way. And sometimes I think that can be a benefit, but it also can be a hindrance in the relationship when you're young. Because you were so small and I was already going into teen years. Yeah, I mean, when I was little, the beneficial factor of having extended family that act as pseudo siblings, when you have that dynamic, it doesn't feel lonely because then you have like the other folks to kind of fill in in those gaps. I mean eight years is a big gap. Because it's essentially the gaps that are the most pivotal trajectory points as you grow into adulthood. Mm-hmm. You may have people in your life that are siblings to you, and they weren't siblings that were born into your same family. Maybe they were chosen siblings or like we mentioned earlier, other family members that you grew up with that really did become siblings to you. Yeah for us particularly, we had cousins that were like pretty much our siblings. They became like our generational siblings. Yeah. Really, truly and they saw us through some of, you know, the ebbs and flows of our life. Yeah, for sure. And there's your chosen family. Sometimes if the dynamics are off or they're like not healthy for you or straight up, they treat you horribly. Sometimes you can find these chosen family friends, they're friends, but they develop that dynamic of siblings. Do you think that siblings that are closer in age have stronger bonds growing up? I know a lot of folks who share their sibling dynamics with me, and they're very close in age. Sometimes they're just on two polar opposites of the same experience. Like they're at the same trajectory level, or sometimes they're a little bit off, one feels like they're accomplishing more, the other one feels like they're accomplishing less. There's much more competition in those ranges. Yeah. So I think the dynamic and the experience is different. It's interesting'cause us growing up with such a big age gap. When you say there's competition. We didn't fight over things like that, like toys or video games and stuff because we were in two different eras and interested in different things. So there was no competition at home? No. I think you probably had more competition with our cousins for things maybe than you had with me. I don't think I was like, smart enough to know what competition was that young. Please. I know I wanted to be friends with everyone when I was little. I could talk to like a wall. Then as I got older, I became very antisocial. Yeah. I agree. I think the connection piece is that, it's both. I think sometimes there's just a natural connection. That exists and it probably has a lot to do with personalities too, and the way people can click and vibe together. And then sometimes it's something that siblings need to work on. So that they can learn how to be more understanding and empathetic and loving with each other because the personalities might clash. Yeah. Do you remember the moment you felt like we were really connected as siblings? I definitely felt it as you became an older adult, I felt like this was part of the ebbs and flows of like, oh yeah, I actually really like my sister. Mm-hmm. And we actually enjoy each other's company, we laugh a lot together and, we can have a good time hanging out. But the cosmic powers that be. I knew that Mitch was coming into this world before anybody else knew, before our parents knew, nobody knew. And I used to come home from school and lay my head on my mother's belly. And she would say, what are you doing? And I would tell her I'm listening to the baby. And that was the first time my parents thought I had gone cuckoo baluukoo. Mm-hmm. And that I needed a psychiatrist'cause obviously something was wrong with me. And they were adamant, like, there is no baby in there. And I kept saying, very serious, very matter of fact, like, yeah, the baby's in here and I'm just listening to her. I would do this for days on end, every day I would come home and I would put my ear to my mom's belly and I would listen to you. And they'd be like, uh, uhoh, here she goes again. Like, oh no, she's. And I was getting really upset and I'm like, I don't understand what you're saying. The baby is in there, I can hear her. I'm listening to the baby. And I started talking to you. And that's when they really thought I lost it. Then at some point mom went to the doctor and found out that in fact I was correct. And she was pregnant with you. And it was a big shocker. It was a surprise.'cause you were not planned. Yeah. And in fact our mother was on birth control and I was a fluke, or magic. And then they kept saying that you were gonna be a boy. And I was like, no, it's a girl'cause I listened to her and I talked to her and it's a girl. And they were like, wow, you really tripping over this, but there was some sort of connection, like how as a child did I even know? Well, they say like, biologically your siblings are like a certain percentage of you. Or we're from the same star seed somewhere out in the universe and I recognized your, we were like old, old friends like beaches, oh my God. You better buckle up buttercup, because this is gonna be a wild ride. And I indeed buckled up. And it indeed was a wild ride. There is some like weird connection that we have. Starting from when you were in utero to dreams. Yeah. We've had a lot of dreams where we'll know if like somebody's in trouble, somebody's having a hard time, someone's having a baby, not me. Or even like sometimes where you just don't feel good all of a sudden I'll just feel really anxious or upset about something for no reason. And I'm like, whoa, why do I feel like this? And then you'll text me like two minutes later. Whatever past life we were in or celestial realm, we're like, yeah, let's pick that one. Hey, let's go together. Yeah, let's do it. Maybe in a past life we were twins probably. That would be weird. That would be weird. You know, technically, I always show up late to things. Technically yes, like factually. So I was gonna say like, if that was the case and like in, in the universe, we were like, we'll pick that one. Then you showed up late to this one, that's why you were a surprise. Eight years late. And that's how you knew I was here and I was a girl. You were in a celestial realm. You were like, oh shit, I forgot. Yeah, that actually would make a lot of sense. You're like the worst with time. Talk about being on Latino time, my god. I don't know what math you use to calculate time. Me and my musician friends have made a joke, which is not really a joke. It's just a fact always tell Mitch that you're gonna show up 30 minutes earlier than you actually are. So she will only be an hour late. Oh, my favorite thing was one time I had told a boss. I was feeling really inspired to be my best self that week. Okay. I was reading a self-help book. I was reading a lot of mantras the whole night, love, and then I told the boss, yeah, this year I'm really gonna focus on being on time. Cause I have just reestablished the concept that being on time, time is a form of respect to what I'm doing and the people that I'm doing it with. Mm-hmm. And she's like. Oh yeah, that's great. And I said, yeah. And then I proceeded to be late every day for an entire year. You're like, oh, but not for you. At some point, she just laughed it off'cause she was like, your output is really great. You just really need to be on time. And then finally she was like, this is just who you are. Yeah, it's, it's just ingrained in your DNA. I'll say that we did notice a shift in that you are trying to be on time. Like 30 minutes versus like four hours late. I think that's, that's when you know, I like you as a person. The other day, you were like, I'm ready. I'm alive, and I show up and you were in the shower. I was just letting you know that I was alive. That's the big sister, little sister vibe right there. Not a care in the world, not a freaking care in the world. Here I am falling apart. I haven't even had coffee yet. But we established if I'm less than an hour late, I really care about you as a person. Andy saw probably the funniest things because I was outta control and she had to be like the parental figure sometimes. Yes. Did you have any moment where you felt like you were really connected to me as my sister? I mean, I feel like I was always pretty connected to you, even when we didn't really get along for that brief of time. I think there was always that gap because of the age thing. And then it like fully clicked, my mid, late twenties. That's when like it fully clicked and I was like, oh, that's my sister. She finally knew who I was. I finally recognized her in public. But when we were little, I always admired, I always looked up to you. Aw. And then I went into like my adolescent phase and I was like real punk rock. Very much like the big sister that was motherly. So like, I would walk you to school, I would pick you up from school, I would make you a snack when you got home. Yeah. I think it's when you went to college that everything kind of shifted. Yeah. I moved away to college. And that's normal and that's natural. Because I feel as kids, I don't think we really fought all that much. No. I think the most was more just like your little kid energy annoying my teen energy. For sure because you had different teen stuff that you would do sometimes. And I would be like"Hey, you wanna hang out" or you would come and like, sing to my friends. Oh my God, I'll never forget that. So Andy was in choir. And I went to go with my mom to drop her off and I was very little, eight years younger obviously. And she was like, okay, bye. And I was like, you guys wanna hear me sing The Little Mermaid song? Like just fully committed. But my favorite was, when you became obsessed with singing the"I Will Always Love You" Whitney Houston song. I was really obsessed with that song. And you would sing it literally everywhere to everyone. But listen, y'all, it was like a full commitment. It was like, this is my song. This is my concert right now. And you're a guest. Yeah, and you will respect the process. You're welcome. So it was like this little 7-year-old child belting out, I will always love you to everybody, which is hilarious. It's true. I mean, siblings are the only ones who can love you and roast you in the same breath. Yeah. And I was very committed to all of the shenanigans that I did. I didn't know that you didn't have to pay for things when you'd go into stores and we used live near this store. That is a memory that always makes me laugh, I will never forget it. We used to live next door to a little market slash liquor store. Nick's, what was it? Frank and Nicks. So we could just walk over. And get bread, eggs, kind of basic markety stuff from this little market. We were also very close to the owners. They were like an Italian family, they were wonderful and so kind and caring. They really just saw us grow up. They really did for so many years. But one day, this is how we really understood that we had to clock, Mitch, on a regular basis'cause she would just take off and do her own thing. I just remember getting home and then my mom saying, I can't find her anywhere, I don't know where she is. And so we start looking for her all over. We're looking in the house, we think maybe she's hiding, like playing hide and seek or something. And we can't find her, we go outside, we're like running up the driveway screaming her name. And at this point my mom is getting super panicked'cause she's thinking the worst. That like somebody kidnapped her and you know. So we walk up the driveway, as we're turning the corner, low and behold, what do we see? We see little tiny baby Mitch in my mother's clothes, oversized adult dress. In her shoes. You know how children wear adult shoes and they just clickity clack, in her shoes, her clothes, and had makeup all over her face that was not put on correctly. She looked like a little clown in adult clothes carrying a bag of cookies. Eating them. Eating them. Yeah. Nonchalant, like no big deal. She saw us turn the corner and she got startled'cause she realized she got caught going to get cookies with by herself And we had to like turn around and laugh where Mitch couldn't see us. Because it was like the funniest thing we've ever seen. I was like, is this a Saturday night live skit? It's probably why I have such an affinity for ET. I don't even know that connection. For ET they dress'em up. Oh yeah that's what it. And then we're like. Where did you get these cookies from? And she's like, from the store, so my mom's scolds her, we take her home. We come to find out that because she was so little, when she would go in the store, she would set off the bell but they couldn't see her over the counter. So they thought it was like some neighborhood stray cat that kept trying to come in the store. And the whole time it was you going into steal cookies and you knew exactly where they were. And you'd b-line it to the snack aisle, get your cookies and walk out. And so when they would go to look, nobody would be there, you were like in and out really fast. But the best part of this story is that, this says so much about your personality. Like you didn't just go get cookies, you got dressed up in costume. I was committed to the skit. So no one could recognize that you were a child and you put makeup on. Like the commitment to this whole endeavor blew me away. Like just blew me away. Yeah. I mean that's, I told you I should do improv. The drama. Yeah. Like the level of drama and intricate planning and in your little brain, like your little child brain. Because you were like maybe kindergarten age, you thought through the whole thing, what are the possible roadblocks to me getting my cookies? If I look like my mother, they're not even gonna question me. I might be shorter, but I'm in her dress and her shoes. Oh my God. Yeah. I was really committed. I have other funny ones, but that one just every single time and I can remember like a perfect image of you coming around the corner with those cookies. And I was thinking that you were like kidnapped. And I was just having the time of my life. I was obsessed with cookies. I still am. You still are. You are very much a cookie monster. 1000%. We were both very intelligent children that made maybe people's lives a little more difficult.'cause we were also both very independent. Yeah. Children, we were, we were wildly independent, very funny and wonderful. We were the best kids like ever. Because I was probably about your same age when I dipped out of my preschool class. What? See, so it runs in the family. I've never heard you. My daughter did this too. Did she really? Yeah. Oh, that's kind of funny. Our parents were very young when they had me. And so, there was a program on a college campus and it had like daycare stuff that was like a lot of services for young families. And so we were enrolled in that and so my classroom was like a preschool, like the year before kindergarten. Oh, like Head start? Yeah, like head start. Okay. And so I was in the Head Start class, and then our mom and our sister were in a different class that was like across this huge courtyard. On a college campus. And I didn't like that head start class. I didn't like the teachers. I didn't like being there. I would get really upset when they would make me go there. One day during break time, I decided I was done. And I apparently mapped it out, I timed it perfectly. I got my backpack and I walked out and I walked across the campus by myself with my little backpack. Oh my gosh. To the other classroom across this huge courtyard, to go look for mom. I walked into the classroom and another teacher was there who had similar hair to mom and so I went up to her and she turned around. It was a mom. And at that moment I got scared'cause I thought, oh, I got lost. I actually didn't go to the right place. But mom was in that room, but on the other side. Okay. And then all of a sudden I hear is that you whatcha doing here? I got in so much trouble. And you're like, what do you mean? I told him, if you take me back, I'm gonna leave again. Oh my God. And of course like dad went and like flipped out on the teachers, like, why was nobody watching me? How did I get out? Like this is unheard of. Yeah. But I never had to go back. Well, yeah. Hilarious. Scary for her. Hilarious for me. It just goes to show that you were, you were born strong-willed. You were born, you were born. An independent thinker. But I think that's something we have in common. But you're very much like, I don't wanna say not treat driven, but like. No, for sure, look at my dog. We're both treat driven. Are you kidding me? Can you make me a flyer? Mm, i'll buy you coffee. Absolutely, I made it already. Yeah. When there's like a bonus or something that you are gonna get out of it. Yeah. Then you're very like, I'm on it, i've got 10 plans, I have different ways to get to that thing Yes but it's not really monetary, like it's not money based, it's, definitely treat based like a gift or a prize or? No, like a baked good. Only my closest people or people who I work closely with know that if they give me a baked good or a cup of iced coffee. I will help them. Well, I think these are both memories that perfectly capture our personalities as children. Yeah. And apparently as adults too. What's your favorite game that we played as kids? Or favorite game that you played?'cause we had such a big gap. I don't know. I mean in my generation we played with rocks and sticks and so we, we had this big tree, at the house before you were born and so I would climb the tree. I would play on like this crazy very dangerous metal merry-go-round that we'd spin ourselves on super fast and then fly off of it. We would just make up games. I had that too when I was little, the internet didn't really come into our household until I was like 12. We we lived in an area that had a lot of wood, and so I would actually climb on the wood, and I would pretend that I was going on a ship Voyage and then I would climb on the trees. I used to do this very weird thing when I was a kid, that was like my favorite game to play, I can't believe I'm gonna say this on the podcast. Hang on. I'm thinking about it. Okay, one of my favorite games to play by myself was I would pretend to run and roll on the grass, like a ninja assassin. And I would pretend to run and roll at high speeds. And the objective was to jump back up and be okay. So just imagine me throwing myself repeatedly over and over again in the grass. It's like we were, it's like we were only children, but we weren't. Yeah. That's really what it was. We were just doing weird things as if we were the only children because we kind of were in a weird way'cause of the age gap. But I think you were much more social. I was. I was very quiet and very reserved. One of our uncles has a story about me that when he first met me, he is like, I remember when I first met you, you wouldn't stop talking. And at first I was like, she's so adorable and then you wouldn't stop, you kept asking me all these questions and I remember looking at your mom and saying, is she okay? And it's like, yeah. That's just her personality, it was one of those like, uh oh, if you flip the on switch, you can't turn it off, she's not gonna stop. She's like, cool, somebody wants to talk with me all day long about random stuff. And you had no problem talking to strangers. There's a, character from despicable me, the little girl, where she's like, good morning, sun. There's multiple people that have told me. She reminds me of you. And one of our male cousins is like, you know, joy from inside out. I was like, yeah. He's like, yeah, yeah, that's you. And I was like, really? I feel like sadness. Like well that's just perimenopause. That's just adulthood, that's being an adult woman. Adult adulthood will kick joy right out there ba. That's true actually. And we used to have bunk beds and then we had like a big bed. And when you were really, really small, we used to share a bed because we didn't have a lot growing up, all the kids would share a room. But you used to get up and you talked so much that you talked in your sleep, you would wake up and like I used to think sometimes it was cute until it wouldn't stop till it would be like four in the morning and I'd be like, Mitch, stop talking. But you would sit up and you would go and then pass out and you would like. Move the entire night. Like you would wake up in a complete opposite direction position. I fell off that bed so many times'cause you would push me off'cause you would be laying weird at a weird angle and then you'd feel me and then you'd push me off. It's'cause I was really freakishly strong as a small child. Yeah you had so much energy. I remember that. I remember that too. And you were just really, really creative. Like, I remember you would do like a lot of musicals, I just remember you singing all the time. When you became a teenager, I saw you a little bit, but you were really focused on your classes and I was still a kid then, so that's when like the little bit of a big gap came. And then I was in the streets with my, with my kid gang. Yeah. We were, we thought we were the toughest, roughest. We had two neighbors growing, well, we've had a couple neighbors growing up, but two neighbors were twins. And we used to call ourselves the Three Musketeers. Mm-hmm. And we used to pretend we were the Ninja Turtles. Yes. All the time. And that's, and that's kind of when I became very boyish. You were a ninja assassin too? That's when I was a ninja assassin too. So when I first saw like that ninja warrior show, I was like, whatever. I've been doing that since I was a kid. Parkour, parkour, just like, wait, did you invent parkour? I think I did by the carport. Just rolling off pile of wood. I remember feeling very overprotective of you when you were really small before I went away to college. And if little kids were mean to you, I would secretly, do something to scare them so that they wouldn't be mean to you again. This was the John Wick? Yeah. This is the, this is the John Wick of Andy. It's a very psychological thriller. Look me in the eyes, come at my sister like that again. Let's talk about how sibling dynamics have changed into adulthood. You go from, she stole my hoodie to, can I borrow your trauma processing skills, please. Yeah, I think as you get older, you do start to learn and appreciate how valuable our shared history really is. Because at the end of the day, even though, we were so far apart and we were part of two different generational experiences, and we had two different versions of our parents and we have the same parents. Our childhood experiences were very different from each other. Yeah. And I think as adults though, that really bonds us at the same time because it's like we are the only two who fully understand, what that experience was. Even though our, the specifics of the nuances of our, our upbringing, our childhoods are a little different. We understand it. And it's really interesting because like we, even as siblings, there's a resilience in the two of us that we have as siblings that a lot don't have. Yeah. I mean, listen y'all, it's a miracle that we made it out and made it into adulthood to like be real functioning adults. Yeah. And actually like joyful good people. Maybe one day we'll do an episode about that and dive a little bit in, but it ain't gonna be today. Also, we've become much more like teammates, team Powerpuff girls. Which honestly I do love. One thing I appreciate about our dynamic is that we've tried to protect each other as much as possible. In terms of like seeing like the brightness and the joy and the laughter. It is nice to know that you have someone who has your back. Yeah. Right. And someone that you can turn to or you just wanna go get ice cream event on a rainy day or vent. And older siblings sometimes have to walk through the thick of it so that the younger siblings can run through it. That's right a couple years ago we had a really deep conversation. When we went on a little vacation and we ended up comparing our stories and we were like, oh shit, we should write a book. We'd spent like a week together we just had an opportunity to just talk about different experiences and just really get to know each other more as adults. Which I think really changed the game. It did. I think it did. I think the dynamic absolutely changes for siblings as you grow older. Because when you're younger right, you're either like in competition, if you're really close in age. If you're spread apart like we are, it was more like parental figure and child dynamics. But as adults, it's like, now it is more, a deeper friendship based and there's still the sibling dynamic there but it's like evolved. That's a good term. Yeah. It definitely has evolved over time into a beautiful, beautiful. A beautiful love story. What do we wish more people knew about sibling relationships in midlife? I think in midlife, having the understanding and the compassion for the fact that as siblings, you both were just trying to grow up and survive in the world and figure it out. And not take all of that in such a personal way into your midlife relationship that you're creating with your siblings. If you're both invested and both parties have to be invested and willing to grow together and spend time together and really genuinely be a part of each other's lives. Because I know a lot of siblings who like generally care about each other, but they're not invested in being part of each other's lives intentionally. Like they're so busy. It's like, oh, I never see my sibling because I'm just too busy. Yeah, and sometimes distance plays a factor too. Yeah. Or they live across the world or across the country from each other. But I think when you can get to that place, it blossoms into this really cool relationship that just continues to benefit you both. You know, I feel like with us, we become one of each other's biggest cheerleaders. And I will say, I think the biggest lesson that I've learned as our sibling relationship has evolved into adulthood is that you have to sit down with your sibling and have those conversations. Us having really open, honest conversations and sharing so many things about our experiences. Really helped to solidify the bond. Yeah. Sometimes people lose sight of the fact that our siblings are human. Yeah. And like we forget that because we're like, we are so closely tied to this concept of them being our sibling. And so we forget that they are humans who are evolving and learning who they are and going through the ebbs and flows of their journey and their existence. And sometimes we can take things to spaces that it doesn't really need to go. Mm-hmm. So it's like we forget that we have to be a little bit more, like you said, compassionate, caring, considerate of them and their experiences. And maybe we don't understand'em fully, but we can, kind of approach it with grace because we want what's best for them. If you can evolve together and come together and continue to grow together and be in each other's lives That's a kick ass experience that you don't wanna miss out on. Yeah. And psychologists also suggest that strong sibling closeness often doesn't peak until your late twenties to forties range. Yeah, it makes sense. So if you are in that younger era of your life and you feel really disconnected from your siblings, it's never too late to try to have a healthy bond or healthy relationship. Or if you're really close to your siblings now, like keep nurturing that relationship. We, we touched on this right now. So I I wanna do a little quiz that chat, GPT created, we're gonna call chat. GPT homie BT, you gotta pronounce it. GPT Oh my God. I need more coffee. This is the other part that we didn't, that I wanna add, finding things that you do have in common with your sibling because me and my sister get real delirious and we think we're the funniest people on the planet. Think! We laugh at some of the stupidest stuff and we think it's hilarious. Like we're almost PR our pants together, we're laughing so much. I've seen SNL skits that were based on things that we invented, so. All right, so we're gonna do a little quiz because based on birth order, I think there are a lot of assumptions. Which I would say most are true. I think as an older sibling, I definitely have a lot of those oldest daughter, characteristics, especially in a Latino family. Mm-hmm, I don't know what they are, so me saying mm-hmm doesn't matter. It's like the hyper responsible, stubborn, usually very success focused. And then the younger siblings are super wild child, I make my own rules, when I was a young adult, I used to jump into unmarked vans and go to undisclosed locations to party. So yeah, you were definitely a much more wild teenager. Sometimes I watch Schitt's Creek. Yeah. And then I'm like, Alexis and I have a bond. She's like, I'm pretty sure I was sold to somebody at some point. And he's like, ex what? And I am David, all the faces exist. That's me. And in my repertoire, yes. Well, we can laugh and have fun, you know? We can have fun in life together. And that. That's a big deal, especially as adults. Okay. So which sister are you? We're gonna go through these questions. I'm gonna read them out loud. There's only, five of them. Do I have to do math? Well you have to keep track of your answers. Oh, because you'll have to telly. Oh, I'm sorry. Am I boring you? I feel like as adults we can call each other out much more easily and not take of offense to it. Yeah. And it's not offensive. It's not. As young children, we would get annoyed with each other because we take it very personal. And now as adults we're like, get your shit together. Yeah. Get your shit together. Because we know that it's coming from such a loving, supportive place. I dunno. I think we just built understanding our level of sarcasm is outta control. It's like next level. Yeah. Okay. This is the quiz. Which sister are you? We have to answer these questions and tally our most frequent letter response. To determine which sister we are. Okay. Number one. It's Saturday morning. What are you doing? A.) already meal prepping and listening to a podcast. B.) still in bed, scrolling memes and ignoring texts. C.) out shopping with an iced coffee in hand. D.) Journaling, meditating, and texting your group chat about a weird dream. Number two. Your sister just stole your favorite sweater. Again, you: A.) Lecture her about boundaries, then fold it back neatly in your closet. B.) hide all your clothes out of revenge. C.) Post a selfie in her sweater and tag her D.) Write a strongly worded journal entry and then forgive her. Three. Your group text style is: A.) all logistics, no fluff planning mode on B.) Voice notes and chaotic energy, always. C.) Reaction, emojis, memes and photos. D.) Occasional deep thoughts or a screenshot of your astrology app. Four. Your go-to sibling phrase is A Be responsible, be yolo: C, let's take a pick first or D, let's unpack that emotionally. I literally have heard you say that. That's actually funny. Uh, okay. Number five. Your childhood role in the sibling crew: A.) The bossy one with color coded binders. B.) The wild card somehow always grounded. C.) The cool one, best dressed by age 10 or D.) The wise one, aka baby therapist. Okay. Results time. So what do you have most of? Three B's. So you're mostly B? Yeah. You're the chaos queen sister you bring the drama, the laughs and the unpredictable spice, your everyone's favorite wild card. You may have been grounded a lot growing up, but hey, you have the best stories now. Aw, that's so sweet. Aw, I love it. I got mostly D, although it's a little chaotic, so I think I'm confused about what story, but mostly D is the soul sister, deep, thoughtful, and always three books into your healing journey. You're the one your siblings call when they need advice, a tarot pool, or a reminder that they're a cosmic queen. You're basically sage in human form. This is true. Aw, I like that. So that's us. And then there's mostly a's, which are the CEO sister so if you clocked mostly a's you were born to lead your siblings, your group chat, your life, you're organized, protective, and the one who probably filled out all of your sister's FAFSA forms. You're basically their second mom, but you make it chic. Then mostly Cs is the glam sis, stylish social and a little extra in the best way. You love a selfie, a sale, and a good time. You were the first to get a skincare routine and convince your sister to try a TikTok trend. So those are the four different ones. I like the fact that we were literally just talking about the fact that I, relate to Alexis from Schitt's Creek, and then I got the Chaos sister. That's weird, that really clocked us. In five questions. You can pause and rewind if you wanna take that quiz for yourself. I will also link something in the show notes if you want to, get your fave sis or your bestie, who is like a sister to you, and take the quiz. Brothers, you're not allowed and you're not welcome to take quizzes. Just kidding. Depends on your dynamic, with your brother though. You could take the sister quiz too, find out which spicy sister you are. Find out. Now we know I'm the soul sister. You're the chaos sister. Yeah, that makes sense. So let's jump into some rapid fire. We each get 10 rapid fire questions. No thinking, just answering. Let's see what comes up. Can we call his sister? Sister because sister, sister didn't know how much I missed you. Are you ready, Andy? I think so. Number one: What's making you laugh and smile this week? Wrong. Too slow. Eh? I failed. I love a good, fun, funny podcast, which is why I love what we're doing and the work we're doing. I'm really in, into Amy PO's stuff that she's been posting. It's been making me laugh like crazy. And, silly animal videos, where like, you ask your dogs funny questions and their like faces and their facial responses it's like, I've seen this been dog like 12 times and it still makes me laugh. Favorite way to waste time? Laying in bed, scrolling. Something people may be surprised to know about you? That I am actually a homebody. Yeah, she's not at the club or nothing. I'm not up at the club, no, not anymore. I'm definitely a homebody. What was your childhood dream job? Singer Current Go-to comfort show: I love Ted Lasso, I've been watching New Girl'cause that, oh, that also for number one, makes me laugh. New Girl makes me laugh. And like old ones like Big Bang Theory and Friends and things like that. Those are all good, by the way. What's a scent that instantly brings you back to your childhood? Strawberries. Really? Yeah. Oh, funny. You just found that strawberry shortcake shirt. What's your go-to karaoke song? The first one that comes to mind is I Will Survive. You know what's weird? I literally thought that I, you thought that, oh my God. I thought that in my head, not for me, but I thought that you were gonna say that. A personality trait of mine that drives you a little nuts. When you mumble to yourself and you think you're having a conversation with me and I cannot hear or understand anything that you're saying. Oh my God, that's funny. Something you admire about me. Your creativity. And you have this really big heart, but you're very protective of it. Oh, that's very sweet. What's one thing you hope we're still doing in 20 years? Laughing. Aw, that's so cute. Aw, I'm so good at this. You're so good at it. All right. What's making you laugh and smile this week? My dog. Favorite way to waste time? Eating. That's a good one. Something people may be surprised to know about you. I am actually pretty nice with RBF. If you don't know what that means, look it up. What was your childhood dream job? To be an actress. Go to comfort show: The last of us. That's depresso espresso, for sure. Oh, wait, wait, wait. I like Emily in Paris. I like the last of us and I like shrinking. Those are your comfort shows. What's a scent that instantly brings you back to your childhood? Sandalwood. Oh, I was gonna say vanilla. What's your go-to karaoke song? My Heart Will Go On. I see a theme here. A personality trait of mind that drives you a little nuts. Sometimes when I'm talking to you and you're over the conversation, you just like, check out. You're just gone. It's like you go offline and I'll be like Andy. And you'll be like, what? You're like, you know, we're having a conversation, right? Something you admire about me. You're incredibly driven, you're a great leader and you deeply care about others. What's one thing you hope we're still doing together in 20 years? Laughing until we almost pee. Alright but here's the twist, Mitch. Okay. You get to ask me one deep, unexpected question and anything goes, and I'll do the same. When in your life did you feel the most lost? And how did you find your way back? Whoa. Pass. Oh, that's tough. It makes me actually feel emotional, that's funny. I think there was a point in my life, and this was a very pivotal turning point. I was in my early thirties. I was working young mom trying to finish grad school, and I was just like burnt at both ends. And then I got really sick, unexpectedly. Like it was like a curve ball of like being diagnosed with cancer and that being really scary. I think I felt very, very lost because I didn't know how to process all of that. I felt very confused about where my priorities were, who I was, my role as a mother, and just so many feelings about life and everything happening all at one time. Mm-hmm. And it took me years to work through that years and probably still working through right job to be honest. I started to find my way once I started to release expectations, when I started to really just let go and cut through the noise and just really listen and hone in. To the things that felt most important to me. That's when I started to like, hear my own voice again and feel like, okay, we're back on track, we found the path. And now we just need to keep doing and see, you know, kind of where we go. And honestly, my child is like a little wise soul and I feel like she said things to me, that I'm not gonna share because they're very personal. But, that kind of like, it was like a whoa, snap me out of it moment. That's really beautiful. Thank you. I personally know your child very well, so I know that to be very true. Yeah. Her, she, she's like, we talk about being each other's therapist, but she's like the therapist for everybody. She's like the whole family therapist. She's like a little oracle. Like you're not even asking her and all of a sudden she drops some wisdom on you and you're like. Whoa. Kids are wise, you know, if you listen to them, it's amazing. Okay, so now my turn right? Nope. What do you think is the legacy we're building as sisters and what is the legacy you wanna build for yourself? Oh, I do know this, hang on. It's not online. It's on something that I posted the other time on my Instagram. I saw this thing online and it really did like strike me. And it's like you are the woman your ancestors prayed for. They dreamed of you, a woman free enough to speak her truth, soft enough to fill her heart and powerful enough to break every, curse that they couldn't. Ooh, mic drop. And I really truly believe that that is the legacy we're leaving. And I mean, that's a legacy we're building as sisters. We're breaking so many ancestral traumas, bad choices, paths, patterns. So I'm really proud of us because, oh, I'm proud of us too. Like I've had friends that have like known little bits about the life that we have lived through. And, they're always kind of in shock. I think that's another thing about sibling dynamic is like they are, like Andy said earlier, the only other person on the earth that has a clue, which you've been through, down to the details, right? And so I've, I've shared little bits of our journey, with friends, and they've looked at me lost for words. Like, what do you mean? What do you mean you're such a light, bubbly person? Like, how did that even happen? And when we look at the statistics in some of the research that I've done at different classes. We are 100% against the odds. Mm-hmm. And there's two of us that are against the odds. And there's something to be said in that, and we're both like two little starlights that walked through darkness together. Yeah. Look at us now. Shining bright. Like a diamond. I love that. For us, yeah. For a legacy that I wanna leave for myself, I definitely wanna be able to cook the best cookie in the world. That's probably like your secret, dream business. Yeah. To like, if I could at some point own a bakery, but be like a faceless bakery, like nobody knows that I own it, but everybody wants the cookies. That would be great. I don't wanna bake'em either. I just, I just wanna fund it. I think that we, I don't wanna be in the kitchen at all. I just wanna find the people who bake the cookies. Am I becoming a shark? I think so. There you go. That's your legacy. I'm joking. I think my legacy would be just to. To be proud of the person I am, at the end of this life. And to potentially open many doors for people who are similar to us. That maybe didn't have, you know, the avenues where, we really had to bear knuckle our way through this life. And so I wanna be a door opener for people who, maybe don't have a big sister to like give them some guidance. I mean, here we are. Right? The, the universe had a say and dropped two bright stars down together. And clearly we're, we're meant to be siblings. And I think my creative magic, matches your creative magic and it comes together and it's like, boom. I mean, this episode felt like a hug. Or like a good long text thread with the sister you love and occasionally have wanted to strangle. That's basically our brand. But seriously, being siblings is complicated. It's hilarious healing and so special, and I'm glad we get to share it with all of you. If you've got a sibling you adore or are still trying to decode it, send this episode their way. And if your siblings are chosen, family, we see you too. Love comes in all kinds of packages. Catch you next time, fam. We hope you enjoy today's episode as much as we did. We'll catch you on the next one. Bye bye.